A While Bunch of Awwwww F*ck!

Mornin’,

Notice I didn’t say good morning.

How quickly I settle into old habits. Because this job is essentially nine hours of working to a half hour break, I’m exhausted when I get home.

Part of that is that I’m old, part of it is that I’m post menopausal, part of it is that I’m fat, and part of it is just me. I am lazy at my core and I’m very well aware of that.

I’m struggling in the mornings and I’m struggling after work with getting my life in. And it probably seems crazy that I’m looking for a second job but I just need to get this money piece behind me and get money in savings.

In my short today, I brought up the old but familiar pattern of not liking the job that I’m in. And one could say well you’ve only been there for a week, so how do you really know? I know.

I could go on and on about why, but it serves no purpose. And it puts focus on the negative. I have come far enough and gone through enough, and the people I love have gone through it with me, in the last fucking, well actually a lifetime but for sure the last two years.M

I’m not about screwing people over anymore. I owe people who helped me through this money, I owe credit cards money, I owe the loan company money, I owe my old job money. I always feel the need to make sure that people understand I didn’t take any money from my old company. They give us our sick time once a year and I had used mine up before I actually earned it. So now I’m paying that back.

Last night, before we left, the kind of head administrative assistant I guess you’d call her, snapped at me. And I snapped right back. I did not deserve to get snapped at.

There are aspects of this job that I’m getting, but I have only been there for one week and they have this god-awful spreadsheet and I understand where to put the numbers in for the most part but then we have to verify the numbers and that’s where the shit show in my head starts. It is so convoluted the way they do this and it makes no sense to me. I’m not so arrogant that I assume that this would be the case for others as well. But it is the case for me, I do not get it and I just can’t seem to wrap my head around it and it’s supposed to be done every day when I leave, and I haven’t been able to finish it once.

And so I got snapped on, and I snapped back, and I said I was willing to stay later or come in early because she complained that she would have to come in early to do it. Write a fucking standard operating procedure. I have been blown away, I will say this, by the lack of training involved in the last couple jobs I’ve had. It’s like you come in on your first day, and they expect you to know everything and this mentality of just shove someone right into it and not train them properly blows me away because I have a background and training. I have a background in setting people up for success in their jobs.

The job I had at the school district I worked at, my boss was incredible about asking me to take on new tasks and showing me how to do them. He literally would walk me through step-by-step step-by-step. He would watch me do the task and if I had questions, he always was there to answer them.

It was incredibly empowering and I never felt ashamed or dumb or anything like that because his attitude was you can do this, but I need to set you up with the skills and the knowledge to be able to do it.

I am finding that that is not the norm. The norm is I’m gonna tell you once and then you’re just gonna do it. And I know that this girl is getting beyond frustrated with me.

And I see quite frankly, what they do to her and how she can’t even get her job done because they’re always coming at her with stuff and yesterday there was a question I guess about why she hadn’t gotten certain things done and she did tell our boss that with all the things he came at her with, she didn’t have time to do her own job.

We do not get 15 minute breaks, those are frowned on. I have to ask for permission practically to go to the bathroom. I am not a child.

OK, whatever. Right? Right? This is how this job is and I can’t change it and the only thing I can do is accept it for now because God dammit it gives me a fucking paycheck. It gives me a chance to get out out of the nightmare that I am in.

What I have done in the past, is to accept defeat. I accepted it and I don’t really do anything about it and I don’t try to look for another job and then I blow up and I quit and then we have chaos.

If nothing else, everything I have been through in the last couple years, which let’s face it, was me bringing me into situations, I have felt that these are not punishment situations, but learning situations.

I will look for another job, but I will continue to get to this one on time and be there all day and put up with this shit and just do my fucking job the best I can and to try to push myself to do better and to learn, and when I do get another job, I will get the fuck out of there.

There is no walk away this time. There is no room for self-righteous indignation. There is no quitting. There is only do.

So kind of a Debbie downer of a post and I apologize for that. It is what it is. I have very little time to get ready and so I’m gonna do that and get there and get through this day.

I am grateful for the opportunity to earn a paycheck and to know what it’s like this month to be able to pay the bills. At the end of the day, that is the immediate goal. That is where my Gratitude lies.

I hope you all have a good day.

Be blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie

Fuckin’ Mondays Man

Good Morning!

Ugh, I did NOT want to get up this morning. Not at all and I had reset my alarm but then I got up anyways and I went for a walk and I did a YouTube mini dumbbell workout.

I don’t feel like it was much, but every day I do these things, I’m building resilience, consistency, and good habits.

You know, the just do it thing.

And already, I do not want to go into work. The thing that I remind myself of, is that no one wants to go into work. I mean, unless you really love your job with all your heart. This job is what is gonna pay my debt off. This job is what is gonna pay my rent and my bills. I got this, and I can do this.

Every day I go in, I am closer to achieving my dreams. This job may not be part of the end goal, but it is a part of getting me there.

I have had wonderful opportunities in my life and I have had wonderful jobs. This is a great paying job, and that’s an opportunity, Even if I don’t like what I’m doing.

Oh man, so I am out the door on time and I did manage what I wrote above, but also to take a shower and do my skin care and my hair care but that was about it. I have no food in the house because I ordered yesterday for forgetting that a lot of the stores I ordered from. We’re closed for Easter.

And so one of my stop, intentions went through the window, out the door, flushed right down the shitter.

I have no makeup on. Gone or the days when people tell me oh you don’t need makeup though. Your cheeks are so Rosie, your eyebrows are so dark and perfect. Your lips are so full.

Yeah, now I have a fucking pasty ass complexion, dark circles under my eyes, gray hairs poking out because I haven’t had time to touch up the color. Whatever.

Mondays suck at this job because we get a bunch of leads over the weekend and I have to deal with those all fucking day. But I am grateful to be earning money and on we go.

My big goal going forward into this day, is that I follow through with all the things I need to do tonight and don’t crash out on the couch.

I shall let you know tomorrow morning, how that all goes.

Be Blessed My Faithful Readers!

Love & Light,

Neecie

Selfish Fertilizer

 

Hi Everyone,

I suppose a Happy Easter is in order. Today feels to me much like any other Sunday as it's something I don't practice.

But I am excited to know that there are probaly millions of little kids doing easter egg hunts, waking up to baskets full of the good stuff.

I remember Mom having us make nests out of our clothes and we'd wake up, run downstairs and there would be a basket for each of us in our nest.

I miss those times.

I miss dying easter eggs as well.

At any rate, yes, Happy Easter.

I had a day yesterday.

Rather than write out specifics, I want to just say this; I can have all the plans in the world but the world does not stop just because I do. The world will throw in wrenches.

And I was pissed off about it yesterday. I struggled with the pissed offedness of it all.

I really did.

Because it kept me from staying on task and I woke up ready to go yesterday.

But I thought this through; one, it's OK to be selfish here because I am trying to shoot for consistency, accountability and a shot at going for my dream.

I realized yesterday, that Saturdays will require me to shut off my phone. Once I get a part time job, I'll be working the first part of the morning and then a bit into the afternoon and the rest of my Saturday? Videos and bath products. It's the only way I'm going to get shit done and still have my Sunday's to play or relax or cook or what have you.

Maybe I will actually put my phone on do not disturb because that way, my family can still get through.

The fun stuff needs to happen on Sundays. 

And it's OK to insist upon that and to be selfish about it. And to limit calls to 30 minutes because my rest day needs to be relaxing and/or fun so....

I love my people, I do, but I need to put myself first on some plane of existence if I'm going to get through what I'm realizing that in spite of a great deal of gratitude will kill me if I think of it in terms that I'll be doing this for the rest of my life.

No.

So selfishness is in order and I'm down.

And I'm not going to "announce it on FB". None of my friends take that into account anyway. People will start to figure it out.

Today, I incorporate both STOP and Just Do It...

Comes down to STOP the stupid shit, just do the important shit.

It's all shit but some shit is productive and some is dia-fucking-rrhea.

Some shit is fertilizer and promotes growth and some of it turns your fucking grass orange.

Alright, I've allowed myself a chill. peaceful morning but now I jump in and we shall just see.

I hope you all have a great day.

Be Blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie

It All Could Change at Anytime

 

Hi All,

Here we are at Saturday. I'm moving slower than I intended for this morning but what'evs. The point is I'm getting stuff done.

I was told I'd hear yesterday if I got the job at Menards but I heard nothing. I don't think this means I didn't get it, I just think maybe the hiring manager got sidetracked.

I will call on Monday, she gave me her card.

But that means I have time to do shit I need to do.

I am currently uploading my Neecie's Journey to Better Health Update as I write and that will be posted shortly.

I'm planning on shooting the rest of the videos later because I just have so damn much to do.

Seriously.

It's a lot.

Ok, but other than that, I feel good. I'm happy I made it through my first week. I start to think things...and I don't let myself go there. It doesn't matter if I think I might not be able to do this forever. I have to do it for right now, it's new, I'm still learning and faith means that anything could change for the better at any time. 

That's one of the reasons I continue to post the short videos everyday, even if they only get 20 views or so. That's one of the reasons I'm forcing myself to be consistent with the long form videos for right now.

If it adds up to exactly nothing at all...well I've learned consistency. I've flexed those muscles and I've strengthened them and I can apply them in other areas of my life.

It is "acting as if" but it's also fortifying me for things I don't yet know are coming. 

Trust.

I'm happy to be awake, I'm happy I'm being productive and I look forward to a fulfilling day.

I hope you have that too.

Be Blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie

The Fall

Oh man, good morning!

I woke up at 3:39 and at 4, said fuck it and just got up. And I haven’t really done anything productive. What do you do?

I want to be a baller so bad. Just rip it out, knock’er out of the park, be a rockstar. But I’m tired.

I should hear today if I get the job at Menards. Within a month, my life will look very different. I’ll be working two jobs and I’ll be working on Willow’s Whimsy.

I did decide that I won’t quit the part time job until Willow’s Whimsy is making what I make at Menards (if I get the job). And even if that happens before my debt is paid off, I won’t quit until it is.

I’m talking every penny of it.

Because even though I’ll be making extra money at the part time gig, every single penny of that goes to debt. I won’t benefit materialistically from it.

I do want to take a short trip to Vegas next fall and a longer trip to Jersey so I can see my family.

I’ll fly to Vegas but imma drive in the dead of winter out to the east coast.

Maybe. We’ll see. If I do the East Coast trip, obviously I wanna see my mom and my sister and spend time with them, but I wanna get down to Southern jersey to see my auntie, to Delaware to see my other auntie and to Maryland to see my other sister and my niece and nephew. It’ll be a whirlwind, but a good one. 

I’m pretty much locked into having to take vacation time in our down season, which is anytime between mid November and mid March. They don’t say that, but you can tell they want us there when it’s the busy season and I get that.

And as for the other trips, the big kahuna trips as I like to call them, the ones where I would go overseas, those will come after the debt is paid off.

Because I want to go out with a bang, you know? Who knows if I’ll ever have grandkids and I’m just thinking, I’m closer to death than I am away from it and somehow, I am just praying that I get enough time to do some of the things I’ve dreamed of doing.

So backtracking to yesterday, I am struggling with a certain task at work and it’s the spreadsheet and then we have to do a tally and I get that most people would understand this. I eventually will because I’m someone who when I don’t get something, I’ll keep asking for help and then one day it’ll click and I’ll get it but it’s a conundrum and it involves numbers and counting and those are not my strong points.

If I could redo it in a way that made sense to me, that would be great, but that’s not Real Life. I have to figure this out.

Other than that, this week has gone very good and I am grateful that today is the last day and I get a weekend. If I get the job at Menards, they may ask me to come in for training tomorrow, I don’t know. I guess I’ll find out today if I get the job.

I came home from work yesterday, and my daughter was here with her Bestie and her besties son. They had done all the dishes, vacuumed the apartment, and cleaned my daughter’s room. I was so grateful.

And I remained grateful this morning as I got up and everything was in place and looked nice. That helps with the clutter in my mind so much.

I have paid attention to my behaviors this week and going into next week. There is going to need to be way more consistency. Consistency with what I eat and how I eat it and when I eat it, consistency with exercise, and consistency with my morning and evening routines.

I know that micromanaging my life is maybe not the best way to do things, but because I have been so lazy and so depressed and overwhelmed for the last four months, I feel like micro management is OK. There will come a time for spontaneity and some relief from all of this.

Right now, though, it’s go time.

I will focus on what I’m dealing with in each moment and not what I hope will come because often times, what comes is not what how we pictured it anyways.

But I also have come to see and believe, and have faith in the fact that what comes is usually better than what my plans are anyway.

Today I am grateful for the fall of Pam Bondi and in celebration of her fall from grace, I wrote this poem for her and put it on my Facebook:

Pam oh Pam

I just read the news

You’re out of a job

You’re singin’ the blues

You thought you were special

We thought you a fool

You thought you were badass

We thought you a ghoul

Now you have nothing

Can’t get your job back

Is your tongue brown and orange

From licking Donnie’s crack

You’re a merciless cow

A shrew mean and pasty

Better rethink your goals

Don’t be too hasty

For you are used goods

Donnie threw out his trash

Sorry not sorry

For your dethroning crash

I hope you learned a lesson

But I seriously have my doubts

I think you’ll find you’re a plague

And that bitch, you ain’t got no clout

Don’t let the door hit you on the way out Pammie.

SEE ya!

Lol.

I hope y’all have a great day!!

Be Blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie

Forklift Fury

Good Morning!

Uffdah, I am so tired. I did sleep last night so that’s good. 

I had the interview for the second job last night, right after work. It was the fastest interview I’ve ever had. The gal I interviewed with is very nice but also matter of fact.

I’d be mostly reviving and stocking. And that’s what I want. Something that requires movement.

I should know by tomorrow.

The thing I find hilarious is that if I get it, I’ll have to learn how to drive a forklift.

Me…on a forklift.

Watch out, I might go rogue; just head out the doors and toot on down the highway.

It’ll be a slow cop chase, just like OJ. I’ll have cops from all surrounding counties following me down the highway. People will start posting stories about how they know or knew me.

Dying.

I guess I really should get moving. 

Job is going well. They really had me jump right in and I think with this kind of work, that’s the best way to learn.

Just do it.

Y’all I have pooped 4 times while writing this blog. It’s an IBS morning. Literally an figuratively.

Alright. Well the birds are starting to chirp, though it’s cold and dark outside. 

For anyone who has to drive this morning, please be careful. Rain and snow and all that kaka.

Just be safe.

New video published last night.

Please take a look and do all the stuff if you would; thumbs up, subscribe to my channel, smash the notification bell, comment, etc.

I appreciate you.

Have a great day.

Be Blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie

Advocating For Me - For Success

Good Morning!

I’m tired. And last night I fell into my usual do nothing mode.

This is not good.

I know I’m too hard on myself and I know that it’s ok to have those down days but man…

This job is something else. I do ok yesterday until the end. Training is going to be an issue again but I will say this; the manager had an afternoon meeting with us and he thanked me because there were 5 appointments scheduled yesterday and they were all mine. So he shouted me out and that was great.

But I have to make a slew of calls at the end of the day and it was hard to remember all the steps that go with that.

And then she assigned me something new and expected me to run with it and it threw me off.

These girls work hard and I’m on board with that but I get scared to ask for help when I’m driwning and the lead keeps saying, “This is gonna be all you sooooo” and I’m fine with that but you gotta take enough time to help me learn and be successful.

I’ll get there. I have to put my shit aside and just advocate for myself the best I can but…

I’ll get there. I will. I’m determined.

I need to make up a sign that shows bills, you know my debt and write ZERO payment, all paid and I need to look at that and manifest it.

And if I hope to build my YouTube channel an my business into something I could do in place of a “real” job then there can be no sitting on the couch when I get home.

And maybe I have to look at YouTube and Willow's Whimsy as real jobs. Like, they could be. It's happened for other people.

Maybe do as much as I possibly can while working two jobs and if shit manifests, that's amazing, ya know?

And I am grateful.

The alternative to sitting on the couch after work is sitting on the couch all day in worry and stress. Can't do that. Not again.

I got this.

So there you have it.

I'm up, I have to put a bit more into getting myself ready this morning as I have the interview at Menards right after work.

And tonight? After the interview?

Self care only.

That's all I've got.

If you are reading this and you do not know about my YouTube channel, here's my latest long form video. Another one is scheduled to publish tonight.

PLEASE like the video and subscribe to my channel. I'm 12 subscribers away from 700 and that will be huge for me.

Thank you so much!!!

I hope you all have an amazing day.

Be Blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie