Non-Negotiables

Good Morning!

Hmmm, so yesterday went places I didn’t anticipate.

Change of plans.

I will be moving out on my own come end of August. I’m giving myself until then to try and pay off my credit cards because I won’t be able to afford living on my own if I don’t.

I’m unwilling to get a roommate. I have too many non-negotiables. 

I stated looking just to see what I’m looking at and yeah, gonna have to have the cards all paid off. It means it’ll take me longer to pay off my personal debts but luckily, those debts are to individuals who will work with me as long as I’m making an effort.

I have to remember a couple things here: one is acceptance of what is, one is that other miracles can occur at anytime; just like the rug can be pulled out from you at anytime time, so too can a new rug be placed beneath you.

I’m a survivor and this is not the end of the world.

I did not sleep last night. Much of my night was spent with Pumpkin, who is very tuned in to the emotions of others and she licked my snot as I cried and my tears. Turns out she likes snot, lol.

Little one.

I’m going to make myself Momma’s quiche, because I can, watch TV and take a long ass nap.

And so I wish all of you a warm, safe day. It’s definitely a stay and inside and snuggle up in a blankee kind of day. Blizzard here in MN.

Stay warm.

Be Blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie

No Naysayers Here

 

Good Morning!

Ok, today I am just in go mode and we are gonna ride that one out. In fact, from this day forward, I'm just gonna strive for go mode. I know I'll have crashes but for the most part, like, quit that.

The main focus of my life going forward is paying off my debt. There is a lot of debt.

There are other focuses obviously but that needs to be my main motivator. I just have this feeling. I can't explain it but I'm trusting it.

It's a good feeling and naysayers be damned. I have no naysayers but I'm just putting that out there.

I have a motley assortment of shit to do today and my focus is simply on doing it. Until I go to bed. End of story.

Starting Monday, I prepare for this job. I act as if. On Monday, I am going to get on the highway and drive to work to have a realistic idea of traffic. Well, maybe Tuesday. Yes, Tuesday and I say Tuesday because we have a supposed snowstorm coming in and it may mess with traffic.

I proved to myself in this last job that when pressed, I can learn new things, I can rally and step up.

And that has to be my attitude in this new one. I can't lose this job. This is what is going to take me to where I want to be, which is debt free, building my own personal business and achieving all my other goals.

There are many, many goals.

And I will blog about them as they unfold and come into fruition.

Lots of videos getting shot for the week.

So please look for them if you are someone who supports me by subscribing (free subscribes, I don't have paid ones...yet).

I thank you in advance for that.

Today's Short:

I hope you have a fantastic day.

Be Blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie

Here We Go

Hello Hello,

Well I don’t have to be to work for an hour and here I am sitting in my car…not smoking because I don’t want to reek when I get to work. I sprayed my car down an everything and I have gum. But I don’t want the smoke getting in my clothes or hair.

It’s hard to believe this has happened. Like, because it happened so quick! I didn’t pack any food or anything because he made it sound like I’m just going in to fill out paperwork.

I haven’t called my now former boss yet to give notice because I want to make sure all my t’s are crossed and I’d dotted etc. etc.

Boy I got fat. I’m gonna go get a pair of cheap jeans today. We can wear jeans everyday but I want at least one pair that fits comfortably.

I have dress clothes on today and my pants are stupid tight in all the wrong places but I have a long sweater on so that hides it. I wore my black converse though, don’t even care.

Makeup on but hat is wet. Again, it’ll be mostly dry by the time I arrive so….

So I went to sleep last night at 8:30 and I was up and down, but I mean for the most part good until about 3:30 3:50 or so and I was up for an hour and went back to sleep and got up at about 640. The goal is 5 AM and I know what I have to do and I have to be consistent and I have to put my foot down but the bottom line is I shut my door when I go to bed and that door does not open again until I get up. I just hear everything and my daughter goes to bed late, much later than I end. This has to be a non-negotiable. 

She does not make a lot of noise on purpose or anything like that, it’s just that I hear everything. So I’m going to have to go to bed with my door shut, the fan on and also a sound machine. Then I won’t hear shit. Which scares me in case a weirdo gets in, but I guess I’ll deal with it.

OK, I’m going to meditate something and then see how long this drive takes In traffic.

Woot woot.

I hope you all have a great day.

Be blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie

Peppy?

Hi Everyone,

I have a very bad earache. It’s gotten worse as the day has progressed.

Honestly, it’s probably a pending tooth problem. Ouch.

Anyways, it’s kind had me down, that and the fat that once again, I didn’t sleep last night.

Ugh!

So did I blog about this yesterday? I no longer recall. I got the job, the one I interviewed for last week. I really don’t have many details as of yet. I go in tomorrow to sign the offer letter.

Well this is very strange, I wrote an entire post on my phone but came back to finish up on my computer and it's gone.

And I'm too worn out to write it all out again. I will be back tomorrow and hopefully, feeling a little more peppy.

Peppy. What a word.

Until then, be blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie

Bonkers

 

Good Morning,

I hope you are all well. So first things first; I turned yesterday around. I pretty much was doing something on my list until 4, when I realized I was utterly exhausted.

I took a nap. It was supposed to be a short nap but it was a 3 hour nap. When I woke up, the apartment was dark, the blinds were shut and my daughter was sound asleep on the couch. I guess we both needed some zzzzzz's.

Problem is, the guy I interviewed with called while I was sleeping and left a VM. I called him back and left one.

I hope I didn't blow it, he hasn't called this morning and you know me, that causes some anxiety. But I am trying to blow through that and stay active.

If I don't hear by like, 10, I'm thinking of giving him another call. 

I hate this because you overguess yourself; should I call even though I already left a VM? Or does that look desperate? What if he missed the first message? Then it looks like I'm not interested.

Ugh.

You know, he could've called to say thanks but no thanks so I think I'll call at 10 and then I'll let it go. I'm going to go for a walk on the treadmill upstairs to get some of this anxious energy out of me.

And we'll go from there.

But yesterday? I hardly had to use the STOP skill/tool. I had a list and I stuck to it, one thing after the other and I checked each one off as I went.

I went to bed having cleaned, having exercised, having stuck to my mealplan, having applied for jobs, it was all good. And now, because I am feeling bonkers, I am going to get moving so as not to drive myself from bonkers to bonked.

Today's short: 

I hope you all have a good day.

Be Blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie

A Lot of Sh*t Today

 

Good Morning,

Yes, good, it's still morning for 7 more minutes here in Minnesota. 

First, today is beautiful. It's going to be the last day of it's kind for as far out as the forecast goes. 

Second, I woke up this morning and everything felt horrid.

I didn't get enough sleep, my IBS was such that while I've actually only gone twice, it was horrific. No bueno at all.

The world and my life seemed like shite.

Beyond, ya know, the IBS.

Just everything felt like shite.

But.

I did make a list for myself for today. And this whole STOP thing? Today, I said STOP to myself when I felt like I wanted to give up yet another day; not do shit.

Boy, I'm talking about shit a lot here on this post. But it is what it is.

And I am going through everything on my list for the most part, how I wrote it down to do it.

I do have to add in a trip to the grocery store and a pick up from Cub and to get gas.

I'm checking things off as I go in the hopes that it will inspire me to keep fucking going. Energizer bunny style.

I got on the scale this morning and I'm both mad and glad I did. I'm over 180 and that STOPS now. I will not weigh myself again until Saturday. I needed to see that. No more excuses. If I stick to my meal plan, I want to see how that affects the scale and then make the necessary adjustments.

I am also getting all my fluids in for the day and that actually makes you gain weight at first, especially if you're chronically dehydrated. It goes right through you at first but slowly, your body starts absorbing it and you will gain weight from that. So you have to give it time to become the norm.

So if I can stick to my plan and keep hydrating, I should have a number I can trust on the scale Saturday AM.

As you know, I have ceased and desisted on writing out my daily lists. I'm going to go until bedtime and I'm going to pray I get some good sleep tonight.

I had the window open last night but of course, I don't open it all the way because Pumpkin loves open windows but she's so big, I'm afraid she'll knock the screen out and fall so I only open it about maybe 5 inches or so. But then she sits up there, on the ledge and cries. I cannot afford to run the air yet. I know that sounds crazy...air conditioning? in Minnesota? In March?

Yeah, for real though. Once it gets into the 40s outside, this place heats up like you would not believe and then...it's on. I slept naked, under a sheet and a lightweight blanket last night with the window open and the fan on and I still overheated.

And my daughter was out last night and when she got home, I woke up. Not her fault, she wasn't loud but man...I'm just such a light sleeper. If I don't shut my door completely, it opens all the way and I won't shut it completely because the cats like to get in and out and honestly, if I shut the door completely, they will meow and meow until I give them what they want anyways.

Today, as far as STOP, I am stopping coffee again and I am stopping laziness and the voices that tell me it's OK to just sit on the couch and veg and I am stopping the voices that tell me terrible things about myself.

Below is today's short and yesterday's long form video. Please like (give them a thumbs up), subscribe to my channel and all the good stuff.

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Alright, well I hope you all have an amazing day.

Be Blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie

No Overthinking

Well Good Morning,

I am posting from my phone because my cat, my beautiful Grey, has commandeered my lap. There are two things I cannot do without her intervention;

One is I can’t go to the bathroom. Every time I go into the bathroom, she gets up from wherever she is and follows me in. If I dare to sit upon the throne, she jumps up on my lap and starts purring. Once in awhile, she plops down and…I’m trapped. Usually though, she gets her footing and then jumps from my lap to the sink. I then had to turn in the faucet but just so, so she can drink from it. Again, she spends quite a bit of time getting herself situated fo her drink and I am usually fine and need to wash my hands at this point. So now I just go into the other bathroom to wash my hands and then I have to go get her because she has a very hard time with landings as she’s older now. It’s a whole process and she runs this show.

The other thing I can’t do is sit down or lie down. Up she comes and makes herself comfortable.

She’s slowing down so much and she has good days and hard days and I don’t know how much time I have left with her as she could go downhill quickly. And so…I allow her to stay as it gives her comfort. This cat is a one person girl. And I’m her person.

At any rate, I digress.

I had fun yesterday!!!!

My daughter wanted to try this pizza place in South Minneapolis. Once we got there, I realized that it was one that I had wanted to try too. They were featured on Diners, Drive-ins and Dives a long time ago.

The name of the place is Pizzeria Lola and it was delicious. She has a lot of unique pizzas to choose from. We had the Korean barbecue pizza and the sweet Italian. 

While we were eating, I was lamenting the fat that the area we live in has no good bread bakeries. So she looked some up in the area we were in and lo and behold, we found a cannabis bakery.

I’m not going to rewrite my thoughts on THC an addiction because I don’t need to explain myself. I was taking gummies nightly to help with sleep but when they stopped working, I stopped taking them because you do build a tolerance to THC and I didn’t want to have to keep increasing over time. This little shop is very cute and the owner was so charming and unique. 

He has about 5 different kinds of cookies and he is completely transparent regarding how much of everything is included in one cookie because there’s different kinds of CBD in them too.

I decided to give one a try and just see how I slept.

It took about a good hour for it to kick in with the high increasing in intensity for a good while. It was too much for me so what I want to do, is go back and get some more cookies and use them only on Saturday nights, a half cookie and I’ll take my “bougie bath” about a half hour after ingesting.

I’ll just keep the other cookies frozen for each week. 

Because in spite of a bit of waking up, I did get in over 7 hours last night and knowing that I’ll be guaranteed one good night a week? I’m good with that.

And the one thing I absolutely loved about this? My body relaxed. It relaxed on a level I didn’t know existed.

The name of the shop is Chez Annalise CannaBakery.

Check them out now, thank me later.

Then my daughter came over. Her and her hubby bought a house and they close next weekend.

So she’s busy clearing out things she doesn’t want or need and she brought 3.5 bags of stuff over for my youngest and I to go through and make our own.

I guess…everything about the day was either chill, or us laughing and just talking and it was such a nice day.

I love my kids so much. It means so much to me to spend time with them!

Ok, Word of the week is STOP. Just stop and I’m gonna focus on those things that I can literally just…stop. Like I said in today’s short, there will be emotional fallout but…just stop.

I’m not sure if my daughter works today and if she does, I’m not sure when. So whatever I do, I have to jump into it knowing that when she wakes up, it could be we have to go NOW, or I’ll have some time before I have to drop her.

I’m worried about her. She’s had some disappointments recently. Nothing earth shattering but I just worry. She may need a mom day too. Just to get out of the apartment when she’s not working and do something fun.

Lots to think about this week.

But. Not overthink. Overthink no bueno.

I try to do no more.

Okie, have a good day beauties.

Be Blessed.

Love & Light,

Neecie