Good Morning,
You guys can't see this but I'm at my computer desk! I got it all set up yesterday.
I feel very good about everything I accomplished yesterday but I also need to prioritize some things for today because I didn't get it all done.
Tonight will be the gym, making food for tomorrow, applying for one job and making the products for the basket for the auction I've written about.
I got 7 hours of sleep and thankfully, no dreams, although my REM sleep registered a bit more activity than usual.
I cannot tell you how grateful I am on the nights I do sleep.
Just so grateful.
So I want to write about yesterday and my feelings.
I'm not sure what led to this but I had a purging of sorts.
The day was humid, cloudy and rain/misting all day. It was cold but it wasn't warm.
I was plowing through it all yesterday, getting things done and it's so weird now; when I push through, I get more anxiety. I think that's normal but I also know I can't afford, literally, to crash.
I can crash when I go to bed.
But because I got so little sleep the night before last, I did give myself permission to take a nap when I got back from dropping my daughter at work.
When I woke up, it was pitch black but I had the blinds open and so I could see the lights from the parking lot.
It was this weird moment of clarity.
And I lost it.
I was sobbing, just letting it all out. I hold so much inside now. I honestly think that all the activity, and pushing through, released something in me and it may be that this is the norm for awhile.
There were other factors; I watched some of the Whitney Houston documentary on Netflix and it was so hard to see her go down the way she did.
It doesn't matter how talented you are, how incredibly beautiful or how rich you become; drugs...they will take everything from you...and they did, even that beautiful voice.
And some of the things towards the end, that was said about her daughter.
I'm not judging. I am no one to judge. But they talked too, about the media and how cruel they were to her.
Humans are fickle and I count myself in that. We are so mean when someone shows weakness.
And we love a good comeback story too. She tried, she did, but it was too late.
It broke me, watching that documentary. It broke me for a lot of reasons.
And of course, I was tired.
But I really think that forcing myself to push through what felt like quicksand in just doing normal things yesterday, it opened up something inside me that I've been holding in.
I don't fully know what I've been holding in but here are some of the things:
I worry about the people I love too much. We all do, right? But there's always been this fear of losing people and when they hurt, I hurt.
I think this job has had me in survival mode for awhile now and that may sound dramatic, I'm not trying to be, this is really how I feel. I feel sick to my tummy when I get up and realize I have to go in, I stress about the "what if's" and the people I know are sick or are hurting, I see how dementia affects the animals of some and I worry about the animals. I'm on high alert with these things, Monday through Friday.
I'm stressed about Willow's Whimsy and I've let that hold me back too...you know, from taking action.
The dermatillomania has gotten worse, worse than it's ever been. This literally tearing flesh from myself and the physical pain it causes and the guilt and shame of it.
And money, always with the money.
My ex, the one from when I was 19, wants to come up for Christmas. That feels so fast to me. It scares me for all the reasons; I haven't lost all my weight, the scars from picking, my life is imperfect. It's so weird because I still don't know what I want from this and I'm just trying to take it one day at a time. I honestly am not fixated on this, in fact I'm rather ambivalent and my fear is of him getting hurt, not me. I don't want the pain of others to be caused by me. I'm hard enough on myself without having to punish myself for causing hurt or pain.
And just missing people; mom, dad, David...wondering when others will leave me...through death or if I'll go first.
It's a lot. I'm weary.
So kindof a downer of a post. I'm going to continue to push through today, like I did the last two days.
I will say that I wanted to stop last night, after my release of tears, but I did finally do a pedicure, although my toenails are not painted yet but I got it done!! I gave myself a facial and I did shower.
I know that sounds simple and nice but if you knew the struggle it took just to get me to anything.
I feel good about that, that I was able to push myself after already doing so much and not making my evening be unproductive.
I did something and sometimes that's everything.
And there you have it. Time to meditate, get dressed and go.
I hope you all have a good Monday, I hope this week goes by quickly, but at the same time, I hope I can continue to rally myself to be fully engaged and I hope you can too.
Be Blessed.
Love & Light,
Neecie